Obsessive Ex Syndrome
More personal accounts of cases: Female Obsessor/Male Victim

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The two of them work together. They had a short sexual relationship. He made it clear to her that it was never going to amount to anything and she agreed. Then when he ended it, she called incessantly until he could no longer politely avoid her. He had to tell her to get lost. She has since been spreading lies about him around the office, poisoning many of his professional relationships.

She was a girlfriend who just could not or would not understand that it was over. I found out she had multiple boyfriends and I called it off. She broke into my home and pulled the telephone wires out of the wall so that we could talk as she put it. I had to have her arrested and she just would not quit. She sent my name into places like I "could not get it up anymore". There are a lot of things she has done in the last 4 or 5 years.

After our separation and divorce my ex stole my mail, she had to have followed me when I moved into a new place to find where I lived. I know this because having never given her directions she came to pick our daughters on a rainy night and not only found my house, which was 100 yards off the main road, but came straight to my door, and the house was divided into three apartments. When I have new phone service after she gets the number I start getting repeated hang up calls. On a couple of occasions I have lived with friends. There are calls coming in asking questions about me but the persons never give any information about themselves. The general scenario is they are wanting info for a job I applied for. We have been divorced nine years. After the courts ignored my documentation of her neglect of my kids, and gave her full custody based on nothing but hearsay on her part, I went so far as to move from Oregon to Texas because I knew at that point even the courts would not respect or protect my rights. I still have problems with my mail disappearing, hang-up phone calls after she gets my number, and people I am friends with being called and asked for personal information about such as where do I live, am I single, where do I work. A lot people may want to think it is an effort to get child support out of me but I have been paying all along except when I had no income.

My partner showed odd behaviour while we were together (for a year) which was later identified as possible bi-polar manic depression. She split with me twice and we made up twice but the third time I split with her over some of her even more irrational behaviour. Her paranoia had gotten worse.
    We stayed together for two more weeks after the third split as good friends, but when she found I was seeing the girlfriend of another man she activated a fake email account and emailed him about the girlfriend and I. My ex-partner was the only person who knew I was seeing her.
    Since then she has started a whispering campaign against me among my friends, pretended in her weblog that our second reconciliation never took place, and continues to weblog about myself and others in a provocative manner. I am ignoring her taunts and that seems to have made her more angry and resentful. I suspect her reactions are because she feels rejected but I had to end things as I felt her behaviour was making me depressed.
    When I have tried to discuss the situation and her anger with her she emails me that I am 'dragging things out' and then carries on taunting me in her weblogs. I no longer read these and have asked friends NOT to tell me what she is saying.

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